Proverbs 5:3-9 (The Message)
"The lips of a seductive woman (or man) are oh so sweet, her soft words are oh so smooth. But it won't be long before she's gravel in your mouth, a pain in your gut, a wound in your heart. She's dancing down the primrose path to Death; she's headed straight for Hell and taking you with her. She hasn't a clue about Real Life, about who she is or where she's going. So, my friend, listen closely; don't treat my words casually. Keep your distance from such a woman (or man); absolutely stay out of her neighborhood. You don't want to squander your wonderful life, to waste your precious life among the hardhearted."
I read a story about 2 cousins. They meant the world to each other. Being brought up in an environment where making friends was discouraged, they discovered sole friendship in each other. Because their mothers, who were sisters, met on a regular basis, friendship blossomed. After all, they only had each other!
This young boy and girl enjoyed the many kid's games they played together, like shooting at plastic toy soldiers with rubber bands and trying to retrieve top secret documents from the enemy through a garage filled with invisible security beams -- thread that extended from one wall to another.
As they matured, they moved to more mature sports, like biking and roller-skating on the dikes of Flanders. No matter what the circumstances, they had one another. They were inseparable, they confided in one another, and they considered the other as their best friend.
But one day, something happened that would change all of this. At the age where innocence reaches its end, the girl, now in her mid-teens, began receiving special attention from a married driving instructor. She was invited to a special, intimate rendezvous with that instructor, and was experiencing an inner urge to go. Remember, neither of them had ever experienced "true" friends before, and she didn't know what to make of the strange feelings stirring inside of her. She also didn't know what to make of the married man's advances.
The boy, also in his teens, tried to persuade her otherwise. He saw the hidden dangers behind such an encounter. But she had already made up her mind. She turned away from her life-long friend, her dearest cousin, leaving him in the park, completely discouraged.
That "special" rendezvous led to more, and eventually the young woman's attention began to rotate around men. Jumping from one relationship to another, sometimes even flirting after several men at the same time, this young man's cousin desperately searched for happiness, happiness that she never found.
That didn't hinder the young man from loving his cousin, his best friend. Never, ever did he condemn her or criticize her in any shape, form or fashion. Their friendship was never the same again, however. Conversation rotated solely around the men of her life, as no other subject seemed to be of interest to her. Her cousin tried to drop a few words of advice, whenever he was allowed to, but inside he was devastated that his best friend from childhood had been transformed into an obsessive men-hunter, who never, ever, met the "right guy".
Years later, her father died, and at that point, she shunned her cousin completely. His "best" friend from long ago had made her choice. Unfortunately, that choice made her more isolated than ever before, as she stubbornly continued to look for love in all the wrong places. Childless and friendless, she became a bitter person. All of this because of a choice made right during her teen years!
She would never have dreamed of such an outcome. In her childhood, she would have never wanted to even consider herself as someone on the hunt for men, as someone obsessed by them. But one temptation led to another until they completely swallowed her.
One "innocent" night outside of marriage will ravage your soul for the rest of your life! You will either be repulsed by it, or it will swallow you whole, but it will never, ever lead to the bliss you searched for.
Beware of those men or ladies who promise you the moon. More often than not, that moon will never be delivered to you. Disillusionment, loss of self-worth and bitterness will eventually fill the space that you call "life". The choice to give up your innocence will haunt you for the rest of your days. It is a deception directly from hell, with the only purpose of destroying your destiny, your entire life.
Where will be the man or lady who promised you the moon be in a few years? I know where the TRUE Lover of our soul will be: "And be sure of this-that I am with you always, even to the end of the world." (Matt 28:20 TLB) And He has sure never disappointed me!
His word is true: innocence is not to be given to one who is not committed to our life-time well-being. This will only lead to heartbreak and rejection, and the path will be set to our eventual total downfall.
Dear Lord, We pray today that we would each guard our hearts. Help us to not let our hearts lead us to do things that we will regret later. We pray that we would keep our eyes and hearts on You. In Jesus’ name, Amen.