Hanging on to bitterness and keeping alive grudges is consuming work. It leaves little energy for blessing others, praising God, or enjoying life. The only way to get over a bitter heart toward others is to actively love and serve them in ways that bless their lives. If we can't do this because it's hard to feel like it is the right thing to do, we do it because we know God and want to please him!
Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against one of your people, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the Lord.
— Leviticus 19:18
Dear Lord and Heavenly Father, please remove from our heart any cynicism or delight in seeing others around us fall. Instead, help us to be a rescuer rather than a neglector. We want your grace to be seen in our friendships. In Jesus' name, Amen.